Stephen shares his first 6 steps on how to recover from a money fight and we discuss the best ways to diffuse the situation quickly so positive actions can happen.
1. Take some time to process. Emotions are high, one of you needs time to process emotion.
2. Gain awareness around your thoughts. Are you blaming? Building your case against them? Just ask yourself without self-judgment what you are doing.
3. Find the 1% of the conflict that YOU were responsible for. Own it, admit it to yourself. Put them first in spite of it. This is hard. The risk is that they won’t reciprocate. Do it anyway!
4. Approach them and own your part, without blaming them.
5. THEN, and only then: Use a “when, I felt” statement. When this situation happened, I felt <blank>.
6. Get some help! Don’t wait. Use me or a counselor to be a third party. It’s ok to ask for help.
To contact Stephen you can visit his website finneyfinancial.com or email him at stephen@finneyfinancial.com.